Necole, this piece right here really dug deep into my inner soul. It's as if you were mirroring me and all the triggers flared up, the tears rolled out, like man, I can so relate to this ... but I totally agree with your sentiments:
Necole, this piece right here really dug deep into my inner soul. It's as if you were mirroring me and all the triggers flared up, the tears rolled out, like man, I can so relate to this ... but I totally agree with your sentiments:
I desire a healthy love.
A healing love.
A soul-stirring love.
A love that doesn’t require me to shrink and allows me to show up in the fullness of who I am.
But sometimes because of where we've been we tend to self-sabotage and want to hide out behind that healing (I know I'm guilty of it) but your friend in love is right, once you are aware of the red flags, your weaknesses, then it all becomes common sense, sort of like getting back on that bike and riding it again, or so they say. Finding love again should always be on a clear playing field where your heart is not being subjected to what everyone else is doing, but what it feels happy to feel.
Feelings develop through shared experiences, and a shared story together. I definitely think this is true, but dating without expectation doesn’t really allow this to flourish because it’s more like going with the flow or living in the meantime. Think as women because we’re groomed from birth to attain perfection we hold on to that in every aspect of our life and sometimes dating can be a collision course if things are too perfect. I'm open to new things and wholesome relation now, but it has not been easy. I applaud you for always, always keeping these articles so REAL and relatable... I can't wait to hear how you progress into your new journey blossoms, but in the meantime, just have FUN❤
Thank you! I always say my dating experience from last year was a crash course into my higher self. This year, it’s about making better decisions to get better results.
Also, Everyone you meet will not be a soulmate. Some are just meant to teach you a lesson or evolve you in some ways during that current season.
Necole, this piece right here really dug deep into my inner soul. It's as if you were mirroring me and all the triggers flared up, the tears rolled out, like man, I can so relate to this ... but I totally agree with your sentiments:
I desire a healthy love.
A healing love.
A soul-stirring love.
A love that doesn’t require me to shrink and allows me to show up in the fullness of who I am.
But sometimes because of where we've been we tend to self-sabotage and want to hide out behind that healing (I know I'm guilty of it) but your friend in love is right, once you are aware of the red flags, your weaknesses, then it all becomes common sense, sort of like getting back on that bike and riding it again, or so they say. Finding love again should always be on a clear playing field where your heart is not being subjected to what everyone else is doing, but what it feels happy to feel.
Feelings develop through shared experiences, and a shared story together. I definitely think this is true, but dating without expectation doesn’t really allow this to flourish because it’s more like going with the flow or living in the meantime. Think as women because we’re groomed from birth to attain perfection we hold on to that in every aspect of our life and sometimes dating can be a collision course if things are too perfect. I'm open to new things and wholesome relation now, but it has not been easy. I applaud you for always, always keeping these articles so REAL and relatable... I can't wait to hear how you progress into your new journey blossoms, but in the meantime, just have FUN❤
Thank you! I always say my dating experience from last year was a crash course into my higher self. This year, it’s about making better decisions to get better results.
Also, Everyone you meet will not be a soulmate. Some are just meant to teach you a lesson or evolve you in some ways during that current season.