I felt this so deeply. There have been so many moments where I leaned on others opinions as a crutch instead of trusting my gut. In this year I finally vowed to myself that my life’s decisions wouldn’t be dependent upon others opinions. It’s been hard for me but I know that is what my lesson has been for the year. To trust myself more. To be okay with who I am separate of others. To follow my intended path.
All of this! Where we are in this current moment is based on every choice we've made leading up to this moment. The question is if we have made those choices based on what we wanted or what others wanted for us? I had to sit with this for a long time.
The most empowering decision I may have made this year was deciding to go back to personal blogging and dedicate myself to writing each day (and posting at least once a week). I didn't consult anyone on the decision, I just did it and you guys feedback has been so comforting as a start this new journey of being incredibly open and honest again.
So this really hit home for me. I know that what I'm entering in is a state of evolution and while I want to go out and party and kee kee with everyone there is something holding me back. This post confirmed there is more work to do on self and that it's necessary to take the time out to knock some of those goals out of the park that had been on the back shelf for too long. Thank you for your vulnerability Sis we needed that.
Wow. This was beautifully inspiring, especially the part about questioning our ideas and inner voices instead of being alone with them and allowing them to flourish
This piece gave me so much peace. Because I spend a great deal of time taking on the emotions of clients and their audiences, I need those quiet times to refuel and replenish my creativity. As you said, “I’ve learned to enjoy my clarity in these empty, quiet moments filled with solitude.” Learning this has been pivotal in my business and life as a whole. And it’s why I shut down my agency for 2.5 weeks every year. Thank you for writing from your heart- I felt the compassion and realness of every word.
Thank you Apryl! I saw that you were shutting it down until January 7 and I was like YASSSSS! That's it! It took me 6 years to give myself enough grace to take a vacation and reset, what I like to call my energetic atmosphere but it's so necessary!
Whew!!!! "This need for validation led me to spectator mode, cheering from the sidelines for people whose action on their dreams led to major life wins. Meanwhile, I became so distracted by staying busy in projects that bogged me down versus served me, that I didn’t realize I had transitioned into auto-pilot mode and lost command of the wheel." <--- this is me 100% and having touched a little on this with my therapist today, your post is confirmation, Necole. Thank you for this!
First off thank you for your transparency..what a journey you’ve been on. This piece definitely struck a cord and definitely a wake up call to dig deeper. “Isolation is not just for preparation but Elevation” strong mantra right there. Thank you for that empowerment. So many nuggets in this piece, so awesome 🙌
I felt this in my spirit! I am preparing for a move to another state and though it’s scary, it’s necessary. I’m ready to grow into the woman I always wanted to be and I am ready to make major changes. This article was the confirmation I needed. Thank you Necole!!❤️❤️❤️
Congrats to you! This next chapter is about to be exciting! The best part of moving is the ability to reinvent yourself. I grew so much with every single move.
From the title alone I was ministered to! I appreciate your candid transparency.
I resonate with this so powerfully. I took the accidental but intentional route of entering a business hiatus. I say accidental in that I didn’t anticipate the hiatus lasting for half a year almost.
It’s been extremely hard at times but I’m pretty sure my spirit understood the necessity of a lengthy solitude before I realized the value of this time alone. As a natural loner, deliberately choosing to extend my self isolation felt weird and counterproductive at times BUT that preparation is so key.
I love how you were able to reflect on the patterns in your life where your decision to self isolate led to your next level of growth.
What was the process for you transitioning from your intentional solitude back to the land of “busy” so to speak?
I would say living in Arizona really allowed me to embrace those moments of solitude. I think after my business acquisition, living in New York, and then moving to Atlanta, I got off the path a bit due to imposter syndrome. I wanted to prove myself, and prove they made the right decision on not only betting on my brand, but betting on me. That sent me into overdrive and ultimately the land of busy, driving fast, while not really knowing where I was headed. I'm giving myself the grace to lean into solitude and isolation this holiday season so I can reroute myself and get back on my intended path.
I did awaken. I set my soul on fire. I can totally relate to this. And navigating this new chapter and being a new business owner on top of all that I already do, I want all the quiet moments to recharge, rethink, and focus. My problem is balance and centering as told to me by medium on Saturday. I can feel myself going through something. I got homework to do before our next reading. The whole section about preparing for your competition. Made me think I played myself with all the day drinking yesterday but I am allowed joy. Lol. It’s just little adjustments you have to make along the way to keep you on track to meet your goal. Man I needed this today as I lay in my bed with a headache sipping water and tea.
I’m so glad you’re back to blogging, Necole. You were missed and this truly was a wonderful piece that blessed me and was timely for my current season.
This is beautiful. Thank you for being so vulnerable and for always sharing your story. I too have been going through a period of isolation but it has been so centering. Very difficult at times, but you learn to love and embrace your own company and to strengthen your inner voice.
I felt this so deeply. There have been so many moments where I leaned on others opinions as a crutch instead of trusting my gut. In this year I finally vowed to myself that my life’s decisions wouldn’t be dependent upon others opinions. It’s been hard for me but I know that is what my lesson has been for the year. To trust myself more. To be okay with who I am separate of others. To follow my intended path.
All of this! Where we are in this current moment is based on every choice we've made leading up to this moment. The question is if we have made those choices based on what we wanted or what others wanted for us? I had to sit with this for a long time.
The most empowering decision I may have made this year was deciding to go back to personal blogging and dedicate myself to writing each day (and posting at least once a week). I didn't consult anyone on the decision, I just did it and you guys feedback has been so comforting as a start this new journey of being incredibly open and honest again.
So this really hit home for me. I know that what I'm entering in is a state of evolution and while I want to go out and party and kee kee with everyone there is something holding me back. This post confirmed there is more work to do on self and that it's necessary to take the time out to knock some of those goals out of the park that had been on the back shelf for too long. Thank you for your vulnerability Sis we needed that.
Wow. This was beautifully inspiring, especially the part about questioning our ideas and inner voices instead of being alone with them and allowing them to flourish
Thank you so much for reading! I had a lot to unpack and am still sitting with it through necessary solitude this holiday season has offered
This piece gave me so much peace. Because I spend a great deal of time taking on the emotions of clients and their audiences, I need those quiet times to refuel and replenish my creativity. As you said, “I’ve learned to enjoy my clarity in these empty, quiet moments filled with solitude.” Learning this has been pivotal in my business and life as a whole. And it’s why I shut down my agency for 2.5 weeks every year. Thank you for writing from your heart- I felt the compassion and realness of every word.
Thank you Apryl! I saw that you were shutting it down until January 7 and I was like YASSSSS! That's it! It took me 6 years to give myself enough grace to take a vacation and reset, what I like to call my energetic atmosphere but it's so necessary!
You're amazing 💕. I soooo need this push. Please push me forward, Become❤️
Thank you for reading!
Whew!!!! "This need for validation led me to spectator mode, cheering from the sidelines for people whose action on their dreams led to major life wins. Meanwhile, I became so distracted by staying busy in projects that bogged me down versus served me, that I didn’t realize I had transitioned into auto-pilot mode and lost command of the wheel." <--- this is me 100% and having touched a little on this with my therapist today, your post is confirmation, Necole. Thank you for this!
A hard truth I had to come to terms with! Thank you for reading!
First off thank you for your transparency..what a journey you’ve been on. This piece definitely struck a cord and definitely a wake up call to dig deeper. “Isolation is not just for preparation but Elevation” strong mantra right there. Thank you for that empowerment. So many nuggets in this piece, so awesome 🙌
Thank you so much for your kind words and support!
I felt this in my spirit! I am preparing for a move to another state and though it’s scary, it’s necessary. I’m ready to grow into the woman I always wanted to be and I am ready to make major changes. This article was the confirmation I needed. Thank you Necole!!❤️❤️❤️
Congrats to you! This next chapter is about to be exciting! The best part of moving is the ability to reinvent yourself. I grew so much with every single move.
From the title alone I was ministered to! I appreciate your candid transparency.
I resonate with this so powerfully. I took the accidental but intentional route of entering a business hiatus. I say accidental in that I didn’t anticipate the hiatus lasting for half a year almost.
It’s been extremely hard at times but I’m pretty sure my spirit understood the necessity of a lengthy solitude before I realized the value of this time alone. As a natural loner, deliberately choosing to extend my self isolation felt weird and counterproductive at times BUT that preparation is so key.
I love how you were able to reflect on the patterns in your life where your decision to self isolate led to your next level of growth.
What was the process for you transitioning from your intentional solitude back to the land of “busy” so to speak?
I would say living in Arizona really allowed me to embrace those moments of solitude. I think after my business acquisition, living in New York, and then moving to Atlanta, I got off the path a bit due to imposter syndrome. I wanted to prove myself, and prove they made the right decision on not only betting on my brand, but betting on me. That sent me into overdrive and ultimately the land of busy, driving fast, while not really knowing where I was headed. I'm giving myself the grace to lean into solitude and isolation this holiday season so I can reroute myself and get back on my intended path.
I like that. Thank you for sharing!
I did awaken. I set my soul on fire. I can totally relate to this. And navigating this new chapter and being a new business owner on top of all that I already do, I want all the quiet moments to recharge, rethink, and focus. My problem is balance and centering as told to me by medium on Saturday. I can feel myself going through something. I got homework to do before our next reading. The whole section about preparing for your competition. Made me think I played myself with all the day drinking yesterday but I am allowed joy. Lol. It’s just little adjustments you have to make along the way to keep you on track to meet your goal. Man I needed this today as I lay in my bed with a headache sipping water and tea.
I’m so glad you’re back to blogging, Necole. You were missed and this truly was a wonderful piece that blessed me and was timely for my current season.
This is beautiful. Thank you for being so vulnerable and for always sharing your story. I too have been going through a period of isolation but it has been so centering. Very difficult at times, but you learn to love and embrace your own company and to strengthen your inner voice.