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Laurilee's avatar

I tried to explain this new stage to people I was feeling into words but could never get it right, but you said it all, "growing out of old dreams, releasing roles, or whispering truths that feel inconvenient" this must definitely be a right of passage of some sort because so many people are in this state of growth and it feels soo good! Welcome Home Necole, you were missed!!!

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Necole ❤️'s avatar

I agree on the right of passage! This stage is very beautiful and also very awkward. It's hard to recognize anything that's in my life right now because everything has changed so much. I'm willing to navigate it out loud though! Thank you so much for the kind words.

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Tatyana Smith's avatar

Really enjoyed this! Raw and vulnerable.

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Necole ❤️'s avatar

Thank you for reading!

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Toy Monique's avatar

So good and so aligned with my own transformation. Yesss to the quiet life, true self care and leisure reading!! 💛

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Necole ❤️'s avatar

Good health, less stress, nervous system at rest, what more could I ask for :)

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Starr's avatar

This was beautiful and raw and felt. I resonated with this deeply. And it’s a beautiful insight. Thank you for sharing.

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linisa's avatar

Necole, you’re one of just a handful of women whose journey I’ve quietly followed over the years. I’ve been watching from afar, across all your platforms, as you’ve moved through different seasons of life. Each transition, each evolution, has deeply resonated with me. I recently wrote about setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath, so this post truly hit home. I’m so glad to see you writing here again—I’ve missed your voice and can’t wait to read more.

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Necole ❤️'s avatar

"Setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath" - I love that! That's exactly where I am currently. I appreciate your support through my many transitions. It has inspired me to write more as I navigate my way through this thing we call life as our shared stories it's the thread that connects us in a world that fills very disconnected.

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Dewette Rose's avatar

THIS!!! “… setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath!” Perfect summation! *exhale* THIS! THIS! THIS!! Can you please tell me the name of the post, so I can read it?

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Dewette Rose's avatar

Thanks so much for sharing! I really enjoyed it & identified with every word you wrote. Well done!

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dee's avatar

I felt this at a deeper level. I entered this year knowing I wanted less people to have access to me. I didn't want to be seen because i've been misunderstood by people who had no idea who I was and after a while it becomes soul exhausting. I no longer keep up, I no longer know what's going on. Tiktok is my bridge to the world and I think the collective as a whole is just moving away from means that are preventing us from being present and private.

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Dewette Rose's avatar

This is beautiful, Necole! I’m glad you’re becoming your own safe, soft place! You deserve the peace & ease you seek. I pray this for all of us.

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Cassandre's avatar

This was beautifully written so many times we've landed in that place and couldn't speak it out loud.

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Jay's avatar

🙋🏾‍♀️👌🤗

I did everything on my to do list today and had the best day ever...

Loving my own company..

Realized I too have out grown some people...

Or was I just forcing the fit...

That's a topic for another day!

Thank you for sharing

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Necole ❤️'s avatar

I love this! Thank you for reading Jay! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

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Jania's avatar

Love this! Very spot on. When you are working in your true purpose, ease comes in and joy feels great!

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Maureen's avatar

This is me right now: "growing out of old dreams, releasing roles, or whispering truths that feel inconvenient" - welcome back (always) Necole!

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Julius Rainey, Jr.'s avatar

This message is right on time for me and God/universe brought it to me at the right time. I'm in this place where what I used to as a professional doesn't feel good. It's a daily tug of getting out the bed and going through the motion. Thanks for reminding us that we have the power to always change. The only thing constant is change. :)

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Gei'. <3.'s avatar

this is soooo good! thank you for your vulnerability, it's an honor to be a witness to your growth. reading this was so inspiration. <3.

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Brie Wright's avatar

Heeey 👋🏾

Have you been here long? You are going to do AMAZING here! Great to see you!

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Demi Diaz's avatar

Very relatable, thank you for putting into words what this current season feels like. As unfamiliar as it may, oftentimes, feel—it excites me to know I’m not alone. If anything, it comforts me to know that although it is a journey we need to go on “alone” to rediscover who we are as “individuals”, there’s still a community that is on the same path. Just like run clubs, book clubs—writing and having these discussions (on here) is cultivating the support and encouragement we may need to push through and look forward to the joy that lies ahead of what’s next.

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