I tried to explain this new stage to people I was feeling into words but could never get it right, but you said it all, "growing out of old dreams, releasing roles, or whispering truths that feel inconvenient" this must definitely be a right of passage of some sort because so many people are in this state of growth and it feels soo good! Welcome Home Necole, you were missed!!!
I agree on the right of passage! This stage is very beautiful and also very awkward. It's hard to recognize anything that's in my life right now because everything has changed so much. I'm willing to navigate it out loud though! Thank you so much for the kind words.
I have followed you through many of your public transitions and what inspires me is that you’re willing to continue to respond to the hard questions in different seasons of your life . Keep shining !
Necole, you’re one of just a handful of women whose journey I’ve quietly followed over the years. I’ve been watching from afar, across all your platforms, as you’ve moved through different seasons of life. Each transition, each evolution, has deeply resonated with me. I recently wrote about setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath, so this post truly hit home. I’m so glad to see you writing here again—I’ve missed your voice and can’t wait to read more.
"Setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath" - I love that! That's exactly where I am currently. I appreciate your support through my many transitions. It has inspired me to write more as I navigate my way through this thing we call life as our shared stories it's the thread that connects us in a world that fills very disconnected.
THIS!!! “… setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath!” Perfect summation! *exhale* THIS! THIS! THIS!! Can you please tell me the name of the post, so I can read it?
I felt this at a deeper level. I entered this year knowing I wanted less people to have access to me. I didn't want to be seen because i've been misunderstood by people who had no idea who I was and after a while it becomes soul exhausting. I no longer keep up, I no longer know what's going on. Tiktok is my bridge to the world and I think the collective as a whole is just moving away from means that are preventing us from being present and private.
You put this perfectly! This is the same season I am in as I embrace all the new changes to my own life. Slowing down and appreciating the small things. It’s a new normal that’s entirely worth it. And worth sharing!
This is so beautiful Nicole, and I love that you arrived here!!
I’ve been here for a while, and I tried the loud and visible way on social media, but it never aligned with my spirit.
So I decided the quiet success, my inner peace was worth more to me. It’s a totally different vibe here.
It’s a satisfaction with oneself and with just being and not needing approval or validation from anyone.
For a while I thought perhaps that makes me boring, too, but I realized being truthful to myself, and living in alignment with my spirit is purposeful and meaningful to me and it’s how I want to raise my children.
I want them to value inner peace, empathy, and self-love and embody inner authority, humility, and kindness and if through that they receive rewards and accolades wonderful and if they don’t, that’s fine, too.
What matters is that they’re happy with who they are. Thank you for always being so vulnerable Nicole. I’ve been following your journey for quite a while off and on. Since I’m rarely on social media myself.
I admire your courage, your strength, and your resilience. Sending you so much love on this journey. It’s totally beautiful here!!
Choosing ourselves is better than expecting to be chosen. There’s peace in that. 🙏🏽
This was beautiful to read. I'm in a similar transitional space personally since I've left Atlanta and the honestly that comes with not self-abandoning ourselves to be truthful and seek out what we desire, not on anyones terms but our own...whew, powerful, messy, honest work right there. Wishing you so much peace on your discovery!
I tried to explain this new stage to people I was feeling into words but could never get it right, but you said it all, "growing out of old dreams, releasing roles, or whispering truths that feel inconvenient" this must definitely be a right of passage of some sort because so many people are in this state of growth and it feels soo good! Welcome Home Necole, you were missed!!!
I agree on the right of passage! This stage is very beautiful and also very awkward. It's hard to recognize anything that's in my life right now because everything has changed so much. I'm willing to navigate it out loud though! Thank you so much for the kind words.
Really enjoyed this! Raw and vulnerable.
Thank you for reading!
So good and so aligned with my own transformation. Yesss to the quiet life, true self care and leisure reading!! 💛
Good health, less stress, nervous system at rest, what more could I ask for :)
This was beautiful and raw and felt. I resonated with this deeply. And it’s a beautiful insight. Thank you for sharing.
I love this! I've pivoted so much in life that I have felt all of this, and currently still do about various things mentioned. 🥴💝
I have followed you through many of your public transitions and what inspires me is that you’re willing to continue to respond to the hard questions in different seasons of your life . Keep shining !
Necole, you’re one of just a handful of women whose journey I’ve quietly followed over the years. I’ve been watching from afar, across all your platforms, as you’ve moved through different seasons of life. Each transition, each evolution, has deeply resonated with me. I recently wrote about setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath, so this post truly hit home. I’m so glad to see you writing here again—I’ve missed your voice and can’t wait to read more.
"Setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath" - I love that! That's exactly where I am currently. I appreciate your support through my many transitions. It has inspired me to write more as I navigate my way through this thing we call life as our shared stories it's the thread that connects us in a world that fills very disconnected.
THIS!!! “… setting fire to my old life and surviving the aftermath!” Perfect summation! *exhale* THIS! THIS! THIS!! Can you please tell me the name of the post, so I can read it?
Hey Dewette, you can read the post here: https://thelifeoflin.substack.com/p/i-set-fire-to-my-old-life-and-survived
Thanks so much for sharing! I really enjoyed it & identified with every word you wrote. Well done!
I felt this at a deeper level. I entered this year knowing I wanted less people to have access to me. I didn't want to be seen because i've been misunderstood by people who had no idea who I was and after a while it becomes soul exhausting. I no longer keep up, I no longer know what's going on. Tiktok is my bridge to the world and I think the collective as a whole is just moving away from means that are preventing us from being present and private.
This is beautiful, Necole! I’m glad you’re becoming your own safe, soft place! You deserve the peace & ease you seek. I pray this for all of us.
This was beautifully written so many times we've landed in that place and couldn't speak it out loud.
I see so many women going through this same shift including myself. Abandoning the narratives we were told that success looks like.
Hello....Necole :)
You put this perfectly! This is the same season I am in as I embrace all the new changes to my own life. Slowing down and appreciating the small things. It’s a new normal that’s entirely worth it. And worth sharing!
This is so beautiful Nicole, and I love that you arrived here!!
I’ve been here for a while, and I tried the loud and visible way on social media, but it never aligned with my spirit.
So I decided the quiet success, my inner peace was worth more to me. It’s a totally different vibe here.
It’s a satisfaction with oneself and with just being and not needing approval or validation from anyone.
For a while I thought perhaps that makes me boring, too, but I realized being truthful to myself, and living in alignment with my spirit is purposeful and meaningful to me and it’s how I want to raise my children.
I want them to value inner peace, empathy, and self-love and embody inner authority, humility, and kindness and if through that they receive rewards and accolades wonderful and if they don’t, that’s fine, too.
What matters is that they’re happy with who they are. Thank you for always being so vulnerable Nicole. I’ve been following your journey for quite a while off and on. Since I’m rarely on social media myself.
I admire your courage, your strength, and your resilience. Sending you so much love on this journey. It’s totally beautiful here!!
Choosing ourselves is better than expecting to be chosen. There’s peace in that. 🙏🏽
When I tell you this touched my soul in a good way. It was healing. Thank you for sharing 🤌✨❤️
This was beautiful to read. I'm in a similar transitional space personally since I've left Atlanta and the honestly that comes with not self-abandoning ourselves to be truthful and seek out what we desire, not on anyones terms but our own...whew, powerful, messy, honest work right there. Wishing you so much peace on your discovery!