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This random post on a Sunday soothed and inspired me. Thank you and welcome back 🫶🏾.

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Thank you so much for the kind words!

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"conflict language" wow that's good.

I remember during my last relationship I romanticized the fact that we never argued or raised our voices too (okay once, she wanted me in a group chat on WhatsApp and I don't do group chats - Also thought she just wanted read notifications because she used iPhone, ew!)... I thought it was because of how mature we were. This must be Love!

Nah, it's because we didn't know how to communicate displeasure well. We had the uncomfortable talks, but we filed away the truly unpleasant ones that came to a head down the line - like her need to micromanage and place all her family and friends into group chats 😞

I now know that conflict mitigation > conflict avoidance. Plus, if I think an interpersonal conflict (not something like cheating)... Might dissolve the relationship, I'm probably in the wrong relationship.

Sometime ago we chatted about therapy and writing letters. I haven't physically wrote this one but I've mentally crafted a thank you letter to my ex... I feel these are powerful because you have to deal with resentment, you can't carry it.

I don't want to quote Will Smith... but it hit me when he was talking to his son in "Just the two of us," "hate in your heart will consume you too."

Like entrepreneurs or inventors that aren't successful the first few times say, "I now know five ways not to do it."

"Now I realize what those mistakes were for" - Bobby Brown (no relation 😏)

I'm thankful for the learning opportunity, I am a better man than when I entered that relationship.

My future wife is thankful as well!

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I love this so much!! And your perspective on conflict avoidance was dead on. Me and this guy would just fade out each other's lives for weeks or months at a time versus really approaching the hard uncomfortable conversations that needed to be had. And maybe if we hadn't avoided those potential conflicts, this last situation wouldn't have blown up in the way that it did because now you have a whole year worth of conversations that should have been had pouring out on the table all at one time.

This was such an amazing learning experience in my personal development and one I had to have before my future husband entered the picture. The thing is, the first time I saw him, I had a download that he may be the one. Now I know he was the one that was sent to me to prepare me for the one. ❤️❤️

Thank you so much for sharing

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The most random right on time much needed validating blog post.. Especially being I was driving back from a girls weekend with my best friend and I was doing my damnedest to not open a YouTube astrology reading or to cry over the out of the blue tumultuous breakup I’ve been busting my ass to get over. Thank you for sharing… Constant affirming ways God shows me He has me 💚

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Thank you for sharing! We never know how our experiences will resonate with someone else ❤️

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Sheesh Necole, I didn’t even know I needed this; but oh how It was needed. Welcome backkkkk and Thank you for sharing. It’s beautiful to witness your evolution, and it just gets better each time. This post offered a sense of solace to my spirit if you will. 💗

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Thank you so much! 😊

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Jun 9·edited Jun 9

Welcome back Necole🧸🌸 👏🏽 I hope you are happy and healing. Dating in ATL ain’t for the weak. You will cross paths with the one when it’s time 🙏🏽 As I approach 40 I’m learning to take it one day at a time and not put any pressure on myself. Thanks for sharing the 🎾 tweet. I need to sign up for lessons if it’s going to help me get snatched like you sis. Have a great week!

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Thank you for the kind words! lol! I'm starting to have way more balance in my life then I did in prior years when I was running NB and xo. And I've learned its super important to have hobbies that I'm not trying to monetize

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Okay Beyoncé with the surprises! Been following you from blogger days to now, and it’s awesome seeing your life and growth. Can’t wait for more newsletters. A lot of people stopped doing them, but I still love them! Now I wanna go get some sunflowers. Just seeing the pic made me happy.

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LOL! I like the comparison to Bey and her surprise albums. To be quite honest, I've experienced some things over the last few years that left me so numb I couldn't even write through it. I'm happy to be inspired again even if it's at the sake of experiencing a bit of disappointment and pain

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Jun 9·edited Jun 9

So good!! I also LOVE the book recs. Please keep sharing those!

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Will do! Thank you for the feedback!

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Thank you for this post , it came right on time ❤️

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I love this! As someone also going through a recent breakup, a lot of this resonates with me and I love the idea of journaling a thank you note. The part, “We tend to attract who we are, and that person that we attract is a mirror,” is something I have reflected on lately in regards to all of my past relations and the introspection has been powerful. So happy I came across this post, you definitely have a new subscriber and I look forward to your weekly journals. This further inspires my writing endeavors! 🫀✨

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I needed this… thank you and welcome back!!

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Jun 11·edited Jun 11

Girl, I was so happy to hear from you!💞 I curled up on the couch with my blanket & read your newsletter. It felt like a letter from a good girlfriend. I hope you continue to write + share your experiences & life lessons with us. Xo.

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Awww this makes my heart smile! Thank you for the comment

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Welcome back! Your random "spin the block" newsletter was just what I needed. Onwards and upwards.

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Welcome back! You have been missed.

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This was a great read, particularly as a single woman in my mid 30s. Thanks for sharing your vulnerability. Looking forward to more introspective posts as they encourage me to be introspective as well.

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Necole,

Please continue to do just this. It's truly needed for us ladies that are experiencing the same moments in our journey. It's proof that just because you heal, the world hasn't, and we still have to exist in it. Navigating that is trying. This was a good read and the details of the downfall weren't needed. The beauty of you choosing yourself was.

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So glad you’re back! This piece was everything!

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