Listen now (23 min) | They say “Do it scared! Face the fear and do it anyway,” but how many of us can truly say we are living our lives that way? I’ve decided to do something different for today’s newsletter. Most of my close friends know that voice notes are my love language. They are my preferred message of communication and it is the most efficient way I stay connected to my loved ones.
Necole. I listened to the entire audio newsletter. I am going to say this and I hope you take it in the positive spirit in which I am giving it. I am happy you failed so many times. I am happy you experienced the heartache of loss. I am happy you hit rock bottom. I am happy you experienced those moments of disaster. Do you know why? Because you are living proof that God has a plan for our lives and that He always delivers. I cannot relate to people who have been through nothing. I cannot relate to people who have had their lives handed to them and never experienced failure.
Listening to your story about your mum really made me emotional. I hope and pray you have daughters and that you can see pieces of your mother in them.
Thank you so much for this audio newsletter aka voicenote. This message was for me. I'm sure many people can relate. You are such a motivation. Please please please keep going. And I cannot wait for you to sit down and write your book. You have a best seller in you. Wait on God!
Thank you for this Necole! Today you were another confirmation for me. You are my friend in my head. I’ve walked silently with you since 2008 when I moved here to ATL. I told you then, in an email looking for a new hair salon, that our tragedies were similar in that I lost my Mom as well, then my Grandmother (her mom) just a year later. They were my parents. I was raised by the two of them. It was devastating! Life fell apart for me TWICE in a year! Dreams got deferred. Being wholly and solely responsible for myself and others was thrust upon me in an instant. You are absolutely right that when you sit and watch and “feel” the life leave the body of the woman who gave you life, it profoundly changes something in you. I have said for years that I feel like the person I “would have been” died the day my mother did.
Unlike yourself, at that time, I moved with a subconscious fear of further loss, death, tragedy and abandonment that I didn’t even realize. Although I pushed myself and was able to accomplish so many things, I truly suffered mentally, emotionally until it even manifested physically in my health. There was a lack of support in my life so I carried the burden of all that pain and feeling very alone in the world. I felt very detached from other relatives. I tried for years to pray the pain away. I’m doing everything I could to try to help myself! Only to find myself in deeper despair over the years. Despite on the outside everyone seeming to think I was so successful with a seemingly happy marriage, two healthy, happy and well adjusted children continuing to advance in my career. Becoming a nurse practitioner after many years as an RN, earning my master’s and doctorate degrees. Yet I was dying inside.
It took several years of therapy and inner work to come to the point today where I can finally say “I’m on the other side. I am no longer trying to survive but I am THRIVING”! I know inner peace, joy and true happiness again In my life.
But most recently I have stepped out on faith in an attempt to shed that last lingering remnant of fear. Which was my career. I felt I have given so much to my specialties of women’s and infant’s health for the last (gulp) 25 years, I’m really dating myself now but :). I made many sacrifices and stayed in a toxic sector since I moved hear and I have finally came to a place where I knew I had to walk away. Mortgage, mouths to feed and all. But I devised a plan that was in the works for the past several months and have executed it. I am back in school studying a totally different specialty. Positioning myself to be able to become my own boss and looking into branding as this new path and venture will be focused on minority mental health! I’m so excited and you, my friend in my head, have been such an inspiration. I have followed your growth and progression and seen The Almighty Divine Creator’s grace in your life as I have my own. I’ve had other signs of confirmation but hearing you this morning was another that I am absolutely doing the right thing!
So again, thank you! Keep doing what you do and keep moving along that path of growth and advancement. Keep inspiring people like myself. Those of us who have suffered some things, which is most if not all of us. Wishing you continued success and much love and light!
My apologies that this post was so long winded but you moved me today
Literally listened to this with tears running down my face. I completely understand this on such a personal level and especially at this place that I'm in right now.
Thank you for sharing!
I LOVED this entire message, Necole! I think a lot of us are waiting on the other shoe to drop because of past experiences that disappointed us or because we don't know what it means to open ourselves up to abundance and unlimited possibilities. But this absolutely inspired me to stop bracing for impact and enjoy the journey. Ok I'm gonna go now before I cry lmao BYE
"bracing for impact" whewwww that's been a word!!! thanks for the email this morning💎
Necole, first off, wherever life takes you, know this, you have impacted so many lives with living and sharing your life. Thank you!
This whole podcast touched my entire soul. (It felt your entire heart was being shared without any notes) but felt like you were looking in the mirror and slapping me into life. I think so many of us are just gliding through life, due to fear of something or the other but we aren’t fully living on our moments and it’s truly sad.
God have us breath so we ought to breathe fully and I intend to start doing just that. Again, thank you. I needed this PUSH!!!!💕 (congrats on your 1st but not last podcast success).
Well said “not breathing, and bracing for impact”.... if ever you are looking for people to interview and have these intimate discussions with I, too, have began and am building my self-discovery process... what an amazing feeling it is to learn yourself. Great job 🙏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I’m really inspired by your growth. The last two years on my life have been so far from the path I thought I would take. But now I see in some areas of my life I was willing to really live and takes leaps of faith. But in other areas I still have some growing to do. I have been trying to cultivate a morning routine for a while...this was a great push to actually do it! Thanks Necole 💜
Whether prepared or not is never easy to lose a parent or loved one. I pray that God continues to comfort you and his shines your mother’s light through you 🙏🏽.
This audio crossed every T and dotted every I for me. I literally have been paralyzed by fear bracing for impact. So afraid that if something good happens it’s followed by something bad which has kept me from moving forward 100% in my passion. I literally took a deep breath after listening to this. God is so amazing! As always thank you for sharing 💛
This hit on so many levels! I lost my mom almost 2 years ago and I’m just now at a time in life where I am getting to a different—I dare say—a positive side of grief. I’m getting closer to God—listening and obeying, learning new things about myself, having the courage to look at things from a more positive point, and moving forward in various aspects of my life. I’m at a place where I am finding and experiencing joy again, loving this new version of myself and feeling like I’m in a very great place. But I’m realizing I too have been holding my breath waiting for depression to return and/or something else devastating to occur while I brace for the impact of some heartbreaking occurrence in the future with no evidence that anything is actually going to happen. Thank you for this reminder to really live! Live as my mother did—she lived her life like it was Golden —because it truly was and still is—through the legacy she left behind!
Hi Necole. Your audio newsletters really touched me! I found out recently that I have a long term medical condition and have been living in fear since and turning down job interviews. I had decided to wait on the unknown on whether my condition would worsen or if I’d be able to function fairly well like I am now. I didn’t realise that I was living in fear and waiting to see where lives takes me. After listening to your newsletter I feel like I have the boost I needed to keep going and pursue my dreams. Thank you for sharing, it’s just what I needed today!
I really resonated with leaning into fear and doing whatever "it" is afraid. I've become accustomed to doing this so there are no "shoulda-woulda-couldas" to look back on. My key takeaway, though, is to stop living bracing myself for the bottom falling out (ie, disappointment). Thank you, sis, for the raw beauty of your journey figuring out this thing called life!
This was right on time!! I I love the voice note and I think you should keep them coming! You are truly inspiring!! Thank you for sharing your journey and being so transparent💛
Necole, thank you so much for your transparency. Your message resonated with me so much, and speaks directly to my heart. I pray that you continue to share your story because you are truly helping so many people. May God continue to bless you, and enlarge your territory!
I needed this word today. I’ve been feeling afraid for so long.