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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 You have no idea the magnitude you bring to the table and not the room. It’s time for you to shine now more than ever!

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Girlllllllllllll!!!! Let me read this again hunni!

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This was beautiful and i really really really needed to read this 💜 thank you for your vulnerability. Eye am going to change my ways starting today.

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Last night as I sat in my "sanctuary " and let the decisions of the week go, I read the article in the Essence magazine. I couldn't shout. I couldn't scream. I just let my heart break open as you placed that mirror in my hand and said "Sis, let me explain to you what you are doing. " The tears flowed as I thought about what coworkers said to me this week.

Now this morning, as part of my routine, the article came up in my meditation and I was led to this article. Again, tears flowed and I was able to exhale.

You. Yes, YOU! You have given me all of the words to describe IT.

Thank you for your work. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for guidance.

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"Still, I knew that God had a vision for my life that was bigger than my imagination could hold." That part. And it's the journey for me going all the way back to your upbringing. I feel like as I'm approaching 40, there's this "F it - I'm dope! I'm trusting my dopeness because God gave it to me" attitude that I'm owning more and more. For so long for different reasons, I doubted my gifts and natural born abilities. But I feel like I'm getting better. So, I felt all of this, sis! Thanks for sharing!

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I read this article 3 different times and each time I saw myself vividly. The imposture syndrome is exactly has you said…..exhausting. I feel depleted by the ways in which I self sabotage, it’s a learned behavior that took over 31 years to master so unlearning this has been challenging. Reading articles such as this makes me feel like wow, it’s not just me. I’ve said this to you many times Necole, I was there online from the beginning lol (me and my sister lol), your transition and I’ve had the opportunity to be apart of ElevateHer, Founders House and even meeting/speaking with you in person, you are part of the reason why I try to keep going, keep fighting for BARE the brand, you are my Oprah. In this very moment as I’m typing this, with tears flowing you are a beacon of hope and what we can accomplish if we just keeping moving forward, it doesn’t have to be perfect full steps but steps nonetheless. I’ve had a tiring few months with my brand and just literally doing everything on my own, wearing every single hat that I probably have no business wearing but I do my best, I try. Even when I fall down, take time off, I eventually find my way back to my baby, BARE the brand. I’m been asking God for help, for a team, for an investor because I know how powerful my brand is, how powerful my story is and how BARE can change the lives of so many. But it’s just me, and with this imposture syndrome, timing is just not waiting on me to get my mind right. Thank you for sharing, as always.

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Thank you.

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Thank you 🙏🏽

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Love this!!! I was an avid Necole Bitchie blog reader, that’s how I started my day…. But the growth is impeccable! Thank you for striving to be better, and to know when you need a change of career path, because sometimes, hurt people hurt people. And instead of the gossip, you are now focused on empowering, and we need more of that!

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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I thoroughly enjoy reading your articles. Your honesty is so inspiring, and I have so much respect for you sharing your inner most thoughts. This read opened my eyes on the pressure we put on ourselves as black woman. Our strive for perfection can be crippling, while we are completely oblivious to it. Thank you for this, I needed to hear I’m not alone and refocus on celebrating me. cheers to you Necole as you stand firm in your greatness, own it and continue to spread it!

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Thank you for always being transparent. Wishing you the very best… you’re worth it!❤️

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